We’ve had to do some work on the house, lately. It’s one of those things that snuck up on us. Since we moved in three years ago, we’ve intended to get the front steps tiled to match the porch. Soon after we moved in a pipe leaked into the basement and we had to tear out a wall so the plumbers could properly fix it. That wall has been torn up ever since. Some plaster cracked in the bedroom and we needed to get it repaired. We waited too long and the crack became too big to do a simple repair. We looked around and realized that all these small jobs had turned into a huge job. So we called a handy man and dug deep into the wallet.
Our relationships are like this. Maybe a person gets angry and yells at their spouse, but if we talk about our feelings…process what happened…then that “small crack in the plaster” can easily be fixed. Maybe a person really messes up and breaks trust with a parent or child. They say that they will pick them up or take care of them, but, then, the person forgets or chooses not to. It’s like the basement wall, though: If we get in and repair it correctly…and rebuild trust right away, we can get back to enjoying life and it may not have to cost us so much.
With any relationship issues: ignoring the problem is not a good option. The longer we ignore the problem, the bigger the problem becomes. Sometimes, when we don’t properly talk through our smaller problems the relationship breaks down and soon it is far too expensive to repair.
With our house, I think we caught it in time. We had to use quite a bit of savings, but our house is nearly all fixed up: even better than when we moved in. If you have a relationship that has broken down, don’t wait any longer. Get to work fixing the pain and begin the process of rebuilding trust. I think you will find that it is worth the risk, time and expense!