Just a few pictures that speak louder than words…
He has been 42 months in the making… On August 7 a few minutes after 2am Henry Lawrence Berry Carnes came into this world healthy and happy. He weighed in at 7 lbs 1oz and is long… 21 & 1/4 inches.
I am overwhelmed by experience of these past few days. One can be mostly prepared for the child birthing experience: reading books, going to classes, planning as a couple. On the other hand there is no preparation for the emotional experience of first holding your own child. It’s only been a few days but I think I love this little boy more everyday than the day before.
Carrie is on maternity leave right now and after her eight weeks of leave I will go on paternity leave. We are both soaking up every minute we can with this little guy before he has to start daycare in mid-November. We both want to say thank you to our churches for being flexible in planning our maternity/paternity leaves. We are so blessed to have these amazing churches.
It has been three years since I last volunteered at church camp (I took a three year hiatus while I worked on my doctor of ministry three weeks each summer). It was an amazing week. Nicole Cox said it this way:
“Another year of AIR camp behind us. And we are all richer for it. Oh I am so grateful for the ways God has changed our hearts this week. I’m grateful for the relationships that deepened. I’m grateful for moments to laugh uncontrollably and to weep without shame. I’m grateful for experiencing the fullness of being in God’s creation. I’m grateful for a place to experience healing and renewal in my heart and spirit. What an amazing week. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: God lives at Little Grassy. I never feel the Spirit like I do in that place.”June 22 facebook post by Nicole Cox
Carrie and I are pleased to announce that we are (okay, she is) fourteen weeks pregnant. If all goes well, we will welcome our firstborn child into this world in July. Like most expectant parents, I imagine, we are apprehensive as we have loved our freedom and our life together, but we are also excited for the experiences ahead. We have been aunt Carrie and uncle Scott for several years, now, and we have been foster parents to an amazing young lady, and now we endeavor upon a new adventure, together.
This isn’t exactly a traditional “Christmas letter,” but with such a long silence on our family blog I thought it time to share an update and wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
This has been a tumultuous year for the Carnes family. We have moved to a new city and both have new jobs. We sold our beloved home and left our former churches in the capable hands of other United Methodist pastors. Whew. Hard…but also exciting!
We were fortunate that in a difficult economy our home sold quickly (despite the water main breaking right in front of the house) and we still consider ourselves incredibly lucky to have had some really great neighbors in that neighborhood!
I did a lot of the packing, of course, but the actual move and the initial unpacking and setting up of our new home was on Carrie. You can see that she had her work cut out for her when the movers left that day. I was off in Chicago working on my final summer residency for my Doctor of Ministry.
My doctor of ministry is in preaching so my preaching each Sunday is part of my education and my education is affecting my preaching in very real ways. I’m loving it! When I got back from school I was in my first Sunday in my new congregation, Collinsville First United Methodist Church. Carrie had already started the previous Sunday in her congregation at “Journey” a church start of Belleville Union UMC. Carrie is appointed by the bishop to be the associate at Belleville Union, but she seldom works in Belleville. Her primary work is in Freeburg, IL at Journey.
The Collinsville Church provides a parsonage in which we live. We appreciate their hospitality and we are constantly working to make it ‘our own’ and when that involves painting…we thank the trustees for being so accommodating! 🙂
One way that the church showed hospitality and generosity, both, was partnering with us to put in a fence for our dogs. As you can see from the picture of Jack, above, the dogs are loving it. While we miss our former communities, friends, and congregations, we have found new places of love and support. Also, being in the Saint Louis area allows us to be near to Carrie’s family. We’ve been able to participate in family events and be with our nephew.
It was also fun to be near the total eclipse and we were fortunate to be able to go down to the lake and go out in the boat for the eclipse with other family and friends. One of the highlights for Carrie was our purchase of half a hog. Not only did we get the traditional cuts of meat, but she got some of the organs and she is excited to experiment with the hog head. I have to say…I don’t know.
Lastly, we both had the opportunity to go to a preaching event at Garrett-Evangelical in Evanston in November. We enjoyed an evening in Chicago before it began and immensely enjoyed it. I think that is just about all that is fit for print. We are preparing for the holidays and look forward to our time with both sides of the family over the next few weeks!
Three years ago we bought a home in Peoria and began new ministries: Carrie in Peoria and Scott in Hudson. We were welcomed into those congregations and we have loved them, both. It is with deeply conflicted emotions, therefore, that we share some news with our congregations, communities, family, and friends.
Bishop Frank Beard has prayerfully discerned that we will both be reappointed to new churches beginning July 1, 2017. We will move to Collinsville, Illinois where Scott will serve as the pastor at First United Methodist Church and Carrie will be leading The Journey, a new church start of Belleville Union United Methodist Church. She will be the associate pastor of Union United Methodist Church in Belleville primarily to be the pastor of the Journey in Freeburg.
We will be pleased to be so near to Carrie’s family in Saint Louis and we are fortunate to be a bit closer to Scott’s family in Pittsfield, but we have never been far from family and the drive has always been worth it…to do great ministry with amazing people. Other the past seven years we have been in loving congregations doing vital ministry wherever the bishop has sent us.
Our hearts will break to say goodbye to our congregations in June. We must pack our home and move to a new community and, certainly, we leave things behind: our hearts, prayers, and the fruits of labor (born of us and our current churches). Though, we will also take some things with us: We take the love of our congregations, the lessons learned, and the experiences gained. Most importantly, though, we take cherished memories and Christ-filled hearts
We mourn our losses and treasure our past experiences, but we also look forward to the ministry that lies ahead. We know that wonderful people and experiences await us in Collinsville and Freeburg/Belleville.
Why do United Methodist pastors move?
We realize that lots of questions arise when news of pastoral moves come up. First of all, whether you are in one of our churches or any other United Methodist Church, feel free to sit down with your pastor to learn more about why we do this and the benefits of our system. In the meantime, click here to learn more about where this strange practice comes from and how it works.
It may shock people to learn that Carrie left me…for two weeks. She had her eye on another love…mission and traveling so she went out on mission to the Philippines and is having a great time (though I can’t wait until she gets home)!
She left on March 2, but how crazy is it that we are able to communicate moment-by-moment via texting on our cell phones? That is, however, made difficult by the fourteen hour time difference. There really aren’t all that many hours when we are both awake to talk, sadly.
She is really enjoying this trip. They are staying on the island of Leyte where there is a University. One of the problems that the people of the Philippines face is that few women are able to get an education in agriculture and they need to feed their country, so Carrie is with a team of people who are working to build a women’s dormitory at the University.
A mission team started the dormitory 20 years go, finishing two rooms. In a recent disaster, the roof failed and a mission team was needed to repair it: it re-ignited the dream that began two decades before. Carrie is very excited to be part of the team that is working to take the project further (with local construction crews, too, of course). Carrie has been loving this project and feels passionate about the need.
It’s not just construction, though. Her team also collected books and clothes, shipping them in advance of their trip. The United Methodist Church is finding great success in the Philippines and they have many people who want to be trained as clergy, but there is little education for pastors. They need help educating pastors, so Carrie is also part of a group providing training for licensed local pastors who have not had the benefit of a seminary education. Carrie also surprised me the other day when she suggested that we should plan, in the future, to go to the Philippines to teach. How fun would that be?
It was a long journey to get to the Philippines. Her car was making some noise so I decided that we should keep her car here so I could get it to the mechanic (and so that she wasn’t driving an unreliable vehicle, of course). We both had Ash Wednesday services so we couldn’t go up the night before like many people on the team. We got up early on Thursday morning so I could get her to Chicago O’Hare Airport by 9 o’clock to meet the group. We left the house at 5:30am and I got her there at 8:45am to meet the rest of the group, but, then, I rushed back to Hudson for a 12:30pm meeting at my church. It was a really long day for me, but that was nothing compared to poor Carrie. She traveled continuously for 52 hours straight!!! I can’t imagine how miserable that must have been with flights, drives, and the seemingly endless layovers at airports.
It was a crazy-long journey for her, but I think the trip, so far, has been worth it. Based on the photos she is posting on Facebook the food has been one of the most exciting aspects of the trip for her. Is anyone really surprised? I, on the other hand, am not very excited about the food I am eating while she is gone. I’m going to appreciate her culinary skills all-the-more when she returns!
We received news on Sunday that Scott’s great-aunt Darlene died. She was a vivacious woman. Even at 98 years old she enlivened a room when she entered.
Here is the obituary, published in the Quincy Herald Whig January 2-4:
GOLDEN, Ill. — Darlene P. “Mema” Myers, 98, of Golden, died at 11:50 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 1, 2017, at Golden Good Shepherd Home in Golden. She was born Jan. 8, 1918, in Bowen, to Clarence Edmund and Bessie Enid Powell Phillips. She married Evans W. Myers on June 29, 1946, in Galesburg. He preceded her in death on March 3, 1997. Darlene was a homemaker and also had worked as a telephone operator in the old switchboard days in Bowen and later worked for the Crossland Locker in Bowen. She also was the special baby-sitter for the Rick Ramsey family. She was a 1935 graduate of Bowen High School and a charter member of the Bowen United Methodist Church, now the Living Faith United Methodist Church in Bowen. Mema enjoyed sewing quilts, reading, gardening, doing find-a-word puzzles, baking and cooking, with homemade noodles being her specialty. She loved watching harness racing at the summer fairs.
She is survived by a daughter, Maureen Leenerts of Linn Creek, Mo.; two grandchildren, Jeffrey (Madchen) Leenerts of Tulsa, Okla., and Wendy Leenerts of Arthur; a great-granddaughter, Emma Leenerts; a brother, Lee Phillips of Coatsburg; and numerous nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her son-in-law, Roger Leenerts; three brothers, Donald, George and Lawrence Phillips; and three sisters, Marjorie Warner, Alice Barnes and Doris Hemphill.
SERVICES: 11 a.m. Friday, Jan. 6, at Living Faith United Methodist Church in Bowen with the Rev. Dr. David Bigley conducting. Burial will be in Woodlawn Cemetery in Augusta.
VISITATION: 9:30 a.m. until the time of services Friday at the church.
MEMORIALS: Living Faith United Methodist Church or Golden Good Shepherd Home.
ARRANGEMENTS: Hamilton Funeral Home in Augusta. Condolences may be expressed online at whig.com.
This has been a year of extreme highs and terrible lows for our family. This year began with illness and surgery. Scott was experiencing terrible pain and the doctors misdiagnosed it. He walked around with appendicitis for almost four weeks before a specialist rushed him into a successful surgery. We cannot say enough about the care he received at BroMenn Medical Center in Bloomington, and will remain silent in regards to another facility.
Scott’s recovery was swift and we were able to travel to Israel-Palestine in February. In 2014 the conference graciously allowed Scott to defer his ordination trip so that we could, instead, travel as a couple on the 2016 Ordinand Trip to the Holy Land. It was an incredible trip not just because of the sights and sounds, but also because of the many colleagues and friends who were on the trip with us. Not only that, but Carrie’s sister decided to join the trip. We were blessed to be part of such an incredible experience with such amazing people!
While we were on the extension trip in Ammon, Jordan we received a call from our foster care agency that they had a placement for us. We, obviously, were not available to take the placement and we were crushed that after such a long wait we were unable to become parents. Just days after our arrival home we received another call for a 10 year old girl to be placed with us. We were overjoyed (and nervous)! She moved in the next day on March 10. “A” would stay with us for the next five months. The situation was not what we or the agency expected and our home quickly became unsafe. She was moved to a more appropriate placement in August.
During that summer Scott completed his second residency (set of summer classes) in the ACTS Doctor of Ministry program. We are blessed that his church has given him extra time for continuing education and provided him with financial support that makes this possible. He has one more assigned sermon and an integrative paper this year, one more residency and then begins his thesis writing. He is almost there!
Carrie also worked hard this year to grow professionally. She completed her certificate in nonprofit management from Kellogg School of Management (Northwestern University) this year. She also traveled to Chicago for the Mediation Skills Training Institute at Lombard-Mennonite Peace Center which got her interested in a Clergy Clinic process which she began in the fall.
This fall we cancelled our membership with our TaeKwonDo (Korean martial arts) Dojang (gym). We really enjoyed Master Soo Kim and the other students at Soo Kim Martial Arts, but the times didn’t work with our schedules and the expense was great. Instead we have gotten a membership at the Riverplex downtown. Between exercise, healthy eating, and better sleep (and our Fitbit tracking) 2016 has been a year of increasing health for us as a family.
Despite our busy-ness we were able to get away for some days away. In April we took “A” to Pere Marquette. It was especially fun to see a little girl’s face light up the first time she stayed in a motel room. We enjoyed hiking trails and seeing beautiful river scenes as well as a ferry boat ride and an afternoon at the Saint Louis Zoo. In late April we took “A” to the Mark Twain cave and sights in Hannibal, Missouri and went down to the Berry family lake house in Saint Genevieve, Missouri in June for the twins’ birthday. Carrie and “A” also got to spend a few days in late June in Saint Louis with family and, then, got to go to the Lincoln sites in Springfield.
In August, after “A” moved out, Carrie took a few days off to hike the Ozark trail. Then, in September we spent two days in Chicago on a spur-of-the-moment trip. We also dropped off our wedding rings for resizing (and added some bling to Carrie’s ring) and we enjoyed a day at Shedd’s Aquarium.
This Thanksgiving was spent with Carrie’s family, but at the home of…Carrie’s sister’s husband’s family (confusing? Not really, we’ll take them as full-on family any time)!Thanksgiving Day, itself, was wonderful overlooking downtown Saint Louis, but we also enjoyed several days visiting with Carrie’s family in Town and Country. Christmas is expected to be with Scott’s family at his childhood home. We are especially looking forward to seeing Scott’s sister and her husband who will be down from Wisconsin, so Christmas is looking to be just as wonderful as our recent Thanksgiving!
As we move into the holidays we reflect on a crazy year and we realize that we have received many blessings. We look forward to Christmas celebrations at our churches and we hope that you and yours can count as many blessings in your lives as we do in ours!
Blessings & Peace,